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| Saturday, 11-Sep-2004 00:00 |
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"BERTANDANG" - THE WEDDING CEREMONY AT GROOM'S HOUSE
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"Bersanding" sitting in the "Pelamin" at groom's house.
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Nice Smile for family and guests.
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Newlyweds with Bibi (groom's sister) & cousin.
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Change to modern clothing.
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Cutting the cake.
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Special request from family...."Mariah Carey song"
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“Bertandang� is performed at the groom’s house whereas “Bersanding� takes place at the bride’s house. Usually “bertandang� ceremony is held after one week after the wedding.
During these symbolic event the groom will go to the bride’s home for “Bersanding�. He is supposed to stay there with her newly wed wife to perform his conjugal rights.
After the third day both the bride and the groom will proceed to the groom’s house known as “Bertandang�hosted by the family of the groom. Invited guests will also be present. This represent confirmation of the union.
During “Bertandang� the newly weds will pay their respects to the family of the groom. The family of the bride will also be joining.
Both the bride and groom will sit at the “pelamin� or dais in front of family and relatives. Family, friends and relatives of both will take the chance to take photograph with them.
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| Sunday, 5-Sep-2004 00:00 |
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BERSANDING - THE WEDDING DAY CEREMONY
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Relatives & friends together packing a "Bunga Telur".
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Guests are presented with "Bunga Telur".
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The group beating the "Kompang" (hand drums)in sing Quranic.
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Bride's relatives riding horse as escort the groom.
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Groom on the Bajau traditional decorative car with attendant.
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They wear richly colorful clothings.
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Bersanding means the big day of the wedding ceremony.
Guests are invited for a treat on that day. The wedding preparation is often based on gotong-royong (co-operation) among friends and relatives for which the Malays are well known. The wedding takes place, in most cases, in the house of the bride. Guests are presented with a bunga telur each. Literally, this means 'flower and egg'. Sometimes it is well decorated. The egg symbolises fertile union and hope that the marriage will produce many children. The arrival of the groom is heralded by the "hadrah" troupe. This group, mostly comprising teenagers, will beat the "kompang" (hand drums) and recite Quranic verses and good wishes. The groom is often flanked by "bunga manggar" (palm blossoms) carriers and accompanied by relatives and friends. The wedding ceremony continue till night with the wedding cake ceremony.
But Khairis wedding is different following bride's tradition of Bajau wedding custom. Bajau is one of the primary local ethnic in SABAH, East Malaysia. Brides and grooms wear colorful bajau tailored clothing. The more highly regarded the girl is the more brightly and colorful she will be dressed. She will also receive many water buffalo which, to the Bajau, is a special animal that usually forms part of woman's dowry. Arranged marriages are common. Marriage by kidnap and elopement are also still quite frequent. They believe they are descended from royalty. This is perhaps why they wear such richly colorful clothes, often hand nade of traditional dastar fabric.
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| Saturday, 4-Sep-2004 00:00 |
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BERINAI - THE HENNE APPLICATION CEREMONY
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"Pelamin" at groom's house
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Khairi with "pengapit" bridegroom's.
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Khairi's dad "merenjis" with sprinkling rose-water.
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The berinai (henna application) ceremony is held prior to the wedding. The groom's and bride's palms and feet are 'decorated' with the dye from the henna leaves.Before the henne application , the groom and bride separetly reside on the “pelamin� (sitting on state) to receive blessings from several chosen people, symbolized by their sprinkling rose-water, rice coloured with tumeric and bunga rampai on the new weds. The job of the "pengapit" (bridegroom's) is to wash off debris and to cool the groom or bride with small fan. This custom is called “merenjis�. After “merenjis� momento was given.
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| Friday, 3-Sep-2004 00:00 |
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PERNIKAHAN - THE PART OF COMPULSORY IN WEDDING CEREMONY
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The groom, observed by 2 witnesses infront the kadi.
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Khairi present to bride with the "mas kahwin" of RM300 and ring
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"Mas kahwin" and a pair of rings.
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The nikah is the actual marriage ceremony. The nikah is a ceremony between the bride's father or guardian, or his representative and the groom, observed by 2 witnesses. A certain amount of money, the mas kahwin, the amount of which varies according to the state the wedding is held in, must also be given to the bride.
This ceremony is held in the mosque. This enables the groom to say his prayer of gratitude after the vow. Nowadays, the ceremony is held at the bride-to-be's home. It is very important for the bride-to-be to observe the ceremony and listen to the vow and other important Islamic matters such as advice from the man who leads the vow, known as the 'kadi'. It is wise to arrange religious activities after the ceremony rather than entertainment, which is against the Islamic religion.
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| Saturday, 17-Jul-2004 00:00 |
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HANTARAN - BRINGING OF GIFTS
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Khairi with gifts from his fiance.
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Dayang with all gifts for her and for Khairi.
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Money.........RM15,ooo
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One aspect of malay weddings is the tradition of exchanging of hantarans, gifts from the newly-weds to each other. The hantarans are beautifully decorated and presented on dulangs, raised trays made of copper or aluminium. The number of hantarans from each side must be an odd number, and the bride is to give an equal number or more than the groom. Typical examples of hantarans are clothes or material, perfume, makeup, jewellery, shoes, sweet foods like chocolates, cake or fruits. But the important one on this "hantaran" ceremony is Money!!!!
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| Thursday, 22-Jan-2004 00:00 |
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KHAIRI AND DAYANG NUR FARESSE ENGAGEMENT
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Khairi with dowrise for his fiance.
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Khairi with sisters and brother.
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Bibi bringing Sirih leaves in to Khairi's fiance house.
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MERISIK DAN MEMINANG - THE PROPOSAL AND THE ENGAGEMENT
In recent times, some traditions are not practised anymore. This includes the "meminang" or the proposal ceremony. This ceremony can be divided into two sections.
When a young man is interested in a certain girl, he sends a representative to check whether that girl is married or not. Sometimes the groom representative also provides a special ring. If the bride representative agrees to the proposal, they set a date for the "meminang" and "merisik" ceremonies.
When the day arrives, the groom representative officially makes the proposal to the bride. Usually the groom clique brings dowries, which includes another ring. Some more traditional and customary dowries are an arrangement of sirih leaves or a malay version of pot-pourri called bunga rampai. Then, both sides of the family set the wedding , the "hantaran" and the "persandingan" date. Nowadays, only the "meminang" ceremony is practised.
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